Dear Doc: Lahat tayo nagpapakita ng suporta sa violence against children... pero, paano po ba makapamuhay ng maayos at masaya ang taong naging biktima ng violence nung bata pa... rape and sexual harassments at that! I’ve been living in misery and trying to live as normal as I could be, but I couldn't... “Ms. Anonymous”
Dear Ms. Anonymous,
For a very traumatic experience like yours, it requires a lot of guts, determination and resolve to get back to the so-called ‘normal life’. Foremost, the haunting experience will keep lingering at the back of your mind. For how long? No one can tell.
I have some few things in mind, which I hope will help you: 1) a psycho-social therapy might help but the most effective therapy is still your ability to unload the baggage that you’ve been carrying through. 2) It would also help if you find a gentleman who will love you sincerely despite what had happened. This is not impossible. 3) And you should not forget the power of prayer. When everything else seems failing us, it's time to turn to the Lord and give up ourselves to Him in complete submission and prayer. The Lord's hand works in mysterious ways and nothing is impossible with the Lord. He is the best Comforter and He is our final destination. The most exalted in the eyes of God is one who is most righteous.
Finally, you should also begin to realize that life's worth is not only in being able to imitate the lives of ‘normal’ people. Each one of us has our own abnormalities which manifest in different ways. Also, not all those who believe they are miserable are completely handicapped. There's a saying which goes this way: "If you want to see how fortunate you are, look at people who are more miserable than you." Example: if you had been complaining of sore eyes and you think that you are the most unglamorous person around, look at the uncomplaining blind who does not even enjoy the beauty of the world around him.
I really hope and pray that you will be able to get out of the miserable world you are currently in. There's a lot more space that you can occupy in the normal world if you are willing and determined to get out of your miserable world.
I sincerely wish that you get your visa to the ‘normal world’ very soon.